Depression: Things You Should Know

by Krissy Ward

     Depression is like a cloud that only seems to hover over you and no one else and it can turn dark so quickly that you may not always be prepared for it. Sometimes you’ll have an umbrella and you can stay dry for the most part, but you are still very aware that it’s pouring raining. Other times, you won’t have an umbrella, a hoody or shelter nearby. That’s when the dark cloud turns from rain to hail. It knows that you don’t have any protection and that’s when it’ll try to hit you the hardest.

     Understanding depression isn’t easy because depression doesn’t make sense. That’s why a lot of people don’t understand how celebrities and wealthy people can be depressed. Depression and anxiety can take hold of your mind and will really have you believing LIES! You can be married, wealthy, famous, have the perfect career... the bottom line is... Depression really don’t give a fuck. That’s just what it is. I was literally on vacation, on a cruise and I couldn’t shake it off. It was horrible to feel like I wasn’t strong enough to shake it off even while in paradise.

     Depression, like chronic illness doesn’t look just one way. Depression isn’t always laying in bed all of the time. Depression isn’t always crying 24/7. Depression usually looks like the people who were just smiling in your face probably making you laugh until your stomach hurt. Depression can show up in many forms. Maybe your house is more cluttered than usual, maybe you haven’t been invested in self care, maybe you’ve been over-eating or maybe you haven’t been eating at all! Again, depression isn’t insecure, it shows up to the party looking however it wants to.

     The key to coping with depression is to know your triggers. Sometimes it may not be a trigger, but once you start to learn when, how and why you’re feeling this way, it’ll be easier to manage. Start journaling or download an app. I use MoodPath and it asks me where my headspace is three times a day so it can see if there are any patterns. Granted, I don’t use it as much as I should so it can’t ever get an accurate reading, but guys, I’m a work in progress. I don’t have it all together.

     Another to key to coping with depression is to stay busy. An idle mind is the devil’s playground. Being stagnant is one of the worse things you can do to cope with depression. It allows you to have too much time to think and when you’re in that headspace, the last thing you want to do is have time to think. Get a new hobby or binge watch something funny, get out of the house, just do something.

     Last thing I want to remind you guys is to talk to yourself like you would talk to your friend. You wouldn’t dare tell your friend all of the negative things you tell yourself. You’re worth more than you believe and you’re stronger than you think.